Sports are a zero-sum game.
Sports have rules that say a side must lose so the other can win.
Life is not a sport.
Life is a positive-sum game.
Someone doesn’t have to lose for you to win.
We can all win.
Life has laws and cultural and social norms, but it doesn’t have rules.
If you are “losing” in life, you are playing a game created by someone who made it a zero-sum game. You have to lose for them to win.
Make your own game.